Monday, April 12, 2010

I'll miss that smile...

My father-in-law died early Saturday morning. It wasn't completely unexpected. He had been diagnosed with untreatable cancer, but his health declined pretty fast. Arrangements were all in place for hospice, but I like to think he had different plans.

Since the moment he learned the cancer was back he never wanted to put anyone out, or make us suffer, or have us remember him sick, or be in a lot of pain. I'm glad he went fast because that's what he wanted, but I already miss him.

Most of all I miss him for Jack. Jim Wheaton was a great father-in-law, our sometimes-grumpy guardian who always had our back, but most of all he was a fantastic grandpa. Just look at the smile on Jack's face... his face always lit up in a special way when he was around grandpa.

There have been many moments when I’ve seen God in this journey and I’m sure I will see more, but right now I’m feeling blessed that I had a great second dad, even if it was for too short of time.


Misty Gower said...

I'm so sorry to hear that, Rene. Sending you, Bob and Jack my love.

amanda said...


i started bawling as soon as I looked at the picture.

I can tell from your words that you have a lot of peace, and I am so grateful.

I know he was a wonderful grandpa for Jack...and he loved you all so much. I love your "sometimes-grumpy guardian who always had our back" line. I think that sums it up rather well.

I know God will continue to comfort you all. love you, sister.

Yaya said...

I think you'll see that smile all your life, I was looking at the picture of Jim that was on the U of M page and when I looked at it I was amazed at the "smile"! It looked just like Jack's smile....he will live on in your little man, and those memories you created will stay with all of you, including Jack.
"The heart that truly loves, never forgets."